If you are experiencing hurt, disappointment and stress in your marriage, you may be wondering if divorce is your next step. Some of the uncomfortable feelings you’re experiencing may simply be a result of unusual circumstances you are facing, and an indicator that now is the time to double down on your efforts to improve your marriage. Therapy and relationship coaching can be a tremendous help. However, if therapy hasn’t worked, these unresolved feelings may also be an indicator that divorce is an option you should explore.
Staying in a broken marriage for the sole purpose of avoiding divorce can lead to a life of pain, resentment, heartache, and collateral damage. Often times spouses who are miserable stay in a marriage and believe they are protecting others from the misery. However, the truth is they often end up causing more damage to everyone in the family, adults and children alike, by continuing to stay in a broken marriage. Afterall, it’s hard to protect children, family and friends from the stress of ongoing conflict, even when the conflict is unspoken; they pick up on it and take it on themselves.
If you are questioning whether divorce is right for you, a good first step is to learn what divorce might mean in your situation. The best way to do that is to schedule an appointment and meet with a family law attorney. Rest assured, just because you are meeting with an attorney does not mean your marriage will end in divorce. But this meeting will educate you about the process so you can make a fully informed and empowered decision.
Also, just because you are considering divorce, doesn’t mean you don’t value family, commitment and marriage. Good people get divorced every day and go on to live wonderful and amazing lives after divorce. It is possible to get a divorce that is consistent with your values. You don’t have to turn into someone else who is hard of heart, angry and bitter, burning bridges and leaving a path of destruction behind you. There is a better way to divorce, and it is possible to do it in a way that is focused on solutions and the future.
Explore the various options for divorce, including Collaborative Divorce. Collaborative Divorce allows the divorcing couple to:
Marriage is hard. Divorce can be harder. There is no easy way to end a marriage. However, when you commit to holding true to your core values, and stay focused on what matters most, you can choose to end your marriage in a way that honors the best of your love, commitment, and history together, while also moving forward with hope for a brighter future. It is in this way that you can protect what matters most: your children, yourself, and your future.
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