How Your Wedding Registry Is Like Couple’s Therapy.
Let’s set the scene, shall we?
You grew up on classics like Pretty in Pink and The Great Gatsby. Your monogrammed tennis whites have their own section in your closet. He grew up fishing and hiking in Montana, can quote Into the Wild and watch Free Solo on repeat.
But it works, until you try to pick out a couch together or find dishes you both like.
Don’t despair. Opposites have been attracting since the beginning of time and have some of the best love stories to tell. The Notebook anyone?
We know a lot of couples get stuck building their wedding gift registry, so we’ve consulted interior designer Danica Brown of Urban Trove, to walk you through 5 steps to help blend your design styles. It’s great advice in decorating and in life.
Step 1: Find Common Ground
It can be hard work, but it’s a good exercise in speaking your mind and listening to each other.
Helpful tip: Ask questions. What do you like (not like) about this room, sofa, fixture, glassware? This process works from designing an entire room to selecting glassware for your bar cart.
Step 2: Add Texture
You've probably heard location is key when buy a home, but I say texture is key when it comes to design.
Helpful tip: Pair opposites like organic and luxe textures or polished and honed finishes.
Step 3: Balance + Invest
If you're like me, you swoon at showstopper pieces. But when you bring together your individual items, they're fighting for attention.
Helpful tip: Make sure the items that are seen often and used for more than holidays are the showstoppers.
Step 4: Color Play
Don’t let our advice for neutral textures scare you away from color and pattern. When mixing design styles, color can actually tie everything together.
Helpful tip: If you both like different colors, then start by picking a bridge pattern. A bridge pattern should incorporate both of the colors that you want to use and will make everything look intentional!
Step 5: It’s For You
You should love what you have! And let’s face it, marriage involves compromise. Learning to listen to your partner and seeing them happy will bring you joy in the end. I’m not suggesting you deck out the living room with his old recliner or that he loves your bed pillows but DO allow each other to have a voice. Do this, and you’ve won the marriage and design lottery.
The Dowry, a curated wedding gift registry website, has identified 5 core design styles so you can register with ease: Boho-Eclectic, Classic-Traditional, Fresh-Prep, Rustic-Industrial and Scandinavian-Minimalist. This is a great way to see how color, texture, shape and pattern broaden an item across different design styles.
In the end, when you both feel represented in your home, it’s a much more interesting and dynamic result. Now go out there, register, and make us proud!
Photography by: The Dowry